(I already wrote this and didn’t want it to go to waste!)
Hey anon! This is Caroline (heartallonfire). I’m actually discerning (the process of coming to know) religious life too! First off, in the words of Pope John Paul II, “Be not afraid!”
Here are some steps you can take to discern this vocation a little better:
1) Stay in the state of grace. This means head over to confession if you are in mortal (grave) sin. You and I will not be able to hear His voice to discern our vocations if we are not in the state of grace! Pray, pray, and pray some more. Make sure you make time for quiet time, because God is already inside of you because of your baptism. He is gentle, He does not shout. He will whisper to you what He wants for your life.
One of my favorite passages of the Bible is found in 1 Kings 19:11-13: The Lord said, “Go out and stand on the mountain in the presence of the Lord, for the Lord is about to pass by.” Then a great and powerful wind tore the mountains apart and shattered the rocks before theLord, but the Lord was not in the wind. After the wind there was an earthquake, but theLord was not in the earthquake. After the earthquake came a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire. And after the fire came a gentle whisper. When Elijah heard it, he pulled his cloak over his face and went out and stood at the mouth of the cave.
Then a voice said to him, “What are you doing here, Elijah?”
We often are looking for God’s voice in the huge, spectacular events in life, when really, He’s been talking to us all along but we haven’t been listening to the quiet.
One of the best ways to pray for your vocation is the Rosary. Our Mother, Mary, wants to help you in this and she will only lead you straight to Christ. She has helped me SO much in this process, and she will comfort and guide you as well.The other great way to pray is through going to daily mass. You don’t have to go every day, but try to go a few times during the week. Get to know Jesus in the Eucharist. Read books written by the saints, especially Introduction to Devout Life by St. Francis de Sales. I highly recommend it, since it is basically a compilation of letters written to a young woman discerning religious life just like you and me!
2) Seek spiritual guidance. You could ask for advice from a priest, a religion teacher, a nun, your youth minister…anyone who you know is mature in their faith. Priests and nuns obviously have experienced many of the trials or feelings you might be in discerning your vocation, and they’re great helpers! Often, God speaks to us through other people, and spiritual direction can help us to figure our way through. Try talking to your parents, as well. Although they may not take it well, they can be great advocates in this journey.
3) Make sure you are following God in the little things. Are you helping out around the house? Are you doing all your work and schoolwork or do you procrastinate? Are you making time for prayer? If we can’t be obedient to our small duties now, how will we be able to follow God when He asks big things of us later?
4) Check out vocational websites such as this one: http://www.vocation.com/QandAItem.aspx?id=1832. There are youtube videos, etc. as well. There is so many resources for people like you and I on the Internet alone so be sure to check it all out!
These are only a few tips I have for you. There is so much I could say, so please feel free to message me at www.heartallonfire.tumblr.com/ask . I will definitely be praying for you! Be blessed, sister.
In Christ,
Caroline