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  • August 27, 2012 12:05 pm
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Followers from the Philippines! If you’re free this Saturday, why not attend Real Love Revolution 2 in WTC in Pasay?

Real Love Revolution is a movement by young people who have come to a clear realization that not everything the world labels as love is love in its real sense. Seeing that choosing to subscribe to a false version of love can be destructive, these young people have decided to work at spreading the true meaning of love by putting up events that not only help enlighten the minds of the youth but also aid them in appreciating and in celebrating genuine love, with all its joys and pains. In partnership with I Am S.T.R.O.N.G., RLR is now celebrating its fifth year carrying the constant tagline and challenge,”i Keep Love Real”

 Speakers are Leah Darrow, former America’s Next Top Model finalist, and Chris Stefanick - both are friends and on the same team that Jason Evert is from.  Organized by CATALYST of UA&P. Tickets range from 50-200 pesos. To order tickets they may contact 0917 429 540. For more info, click here!
I’d probably be there in the WTC event this Saturday, so say hi if you see me! :)
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    randomnoisegenerator:

    Followers from the Philippines! If you’re free this Saturday, why not attend Real Love Revolution 2 in WTC in Pasay?

    Real Love Revolution is a movement by young people who have come to a clear realization that not everything the world labels as love is love in its real sense. Seeing that choosing to subscribe to a false version of love can be destructive, these young people have decided to work at spreading the true meaning of love by putting up events that not only help enlighten the minds of the youth but also aid them in appreciating and in celebrating genuine love, with all its joys and pains. In partnership with I Am S.T.R.O.N.G., RLR is now celebrating its fifth year carrying the constant tagline and challenge,”i Keep Love Real”


    Speakers are Leah Darrow, former America’s Next Top Model finalist, and Chris Stefanick - both are friends and on the same team that Jason Evert is from.  Organized by CATALYST of UA&P. Tickets range from 50-200 pesos. To order tickets they may contact 0917 429 540. For more info, click here!

    I’d probably be there in the WTC event this Saturday, so say hi if you see me! :)

  • August 8, 2012 6:44 pm
    Anonymous:  Why is masturbation bad?

    Sex is meant to be about love. When you have sex, you are giving yourself completely to the other person; it’s meant to be selfless. 

    Masturbation turns it into a strictly selfish experience, where you are giving yourself to no one but yourself. 

    -Javi

  • August 3, 2012 6:48 pm
    Anonymous:  My boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex. Not forcing me, but trying to talk me into it. I can't stand it. The crazy thing is that not only is he Catholic like me, he's a seminarian (Eastern Catholic, they can date). He knows the Church's stance on premarital sex probably better than I do! He's already assured me that he won't leave me just because I won't have sex & I know he means it. (cont...)

    (cont…) He’s also trying to stop the constant asking. But it still gets under my skin & frankly, it scares me that a seminarian is acting like this. He’s asking me to sin for him. Even if I didn’t see it as a sin, I decided long ago that I wanted to wait for marriage and he’s not respecting that decision. He is trying though and that means a lot to me. What can I say to him? Any advice for us? Thanks so much.

    Hello, dear sister. Thank you for coming to us with this question.

    I know from personal experience how difficult it is when someone you care so deeply about tries to compromise your morals - and how confusing it can be, because they share the same beliefs as you do. 

    It does worry me, too, that someone who is going to be a model for his parish one day is so willing to break one of the most basic moral principles of Catholicism. Have you told him about how this fact alone worries you? Maybe if you remind him of his current and future duty to the Lord and the Church, and to you as his girlfriend, it may help a little.

    If he is trying, then that is a step in the right direction. I encourage praying together more to strengthen your relationship, and praying particularly for an increase in the virtue of purity of mind and heart. Try a novena to St. Philomena  - this is her area of expertise!

    However, I want to emphasize that you should never compromise yourself to stay in a relationship. If he keeps pressuring you and making you uncomfortable, maybe you should reevaluate your relationship with him. Regardless of how much he is trying to be better, he’s still disrespecting you by trying to compromise your beliefs (and his!)

    Please, if you have any further questions, don’t hesitate to come back to us. 

    If you’d like to talk more privately about this, contact me at my personal blog.

    Grace be with you, sister, and all of us here at The Papists are praying for you.

    + Jordan

  • July 24, 2012 1:43 pm
    Anonymous:  How can a guy admire the beauty of women without thinking about them in a lustful way?

    This is something very difficult to do, something I’ve struggled with for a long time also.

    Purity is not about wrestling with our temptations and putting them in a choke hold. It’s about transforming our hearts and minds so that we become inclined to look at a woman with love rather than lust. 

    It starts with a decision. You have to decide that you no longer want to lustfully look at a woman. Then you have to pray.

    In the beginning when Adam and Eve were created, Adam looked upon Eve with love, he didn’t view her as a object for his own self-gratification. This shows how we as men are meant to look at a woman, the issue now is the stain of Original Sin. So we have to re-learn how to look at a woman. A change that only God can grant.

    If you pray with sincerity for the ability to look at a woman with love, God will grant you the Graces to do so. It will take time, prayer, and patience because it’s a process. A good tip that acatholicvibe gave me is to say the St. Michael the Archangel prayer out of the blue, even when you don’t feel tempted. Build a relationship with the Blessed Mother through the Rosary, and through different prayers to her; she is a model of Purity. Ask for St. Joseph’s intercession, who is the Protector of Virgins; ask him to help you love women as he loved our Blessed Mother. So basically pray unceasingly and you will be motivated to love our Sisters in Christ not only as an act of Obedience to God, but truly from our hearts.

    A good tip a friend of mine gave me is to look at a woman’s eyes. It’s very hard to lust after a woman when you look her in the eyes. Doing so allows you to remind yourself that she is beautiful in more ways than just her body. When you pass by a girl who you are tempted to lust at, pray a Hail Mary for her. 

    This process will take a long time, and you might feel tempted to give up. But I promise you, when you look back, you’ll see how much you’ve truly changed. 

    "When a man is tempted to look at a woman as an object of lust, he calls to mind that her body reveals his call to love her. When tempted to become a slave to his weakness, he calls to mind the strength God has given him. When tempted to use her, he recalls that he must love her as a sister. " -Jason Evert

    -Javi

  • July 8, 2012 5:34 pm
    Anonymous:  Is it wrong for my Catholic boyfriend and I (also Catholic) to have sleepovers? We are abstaining from sex until marriage, but sometimes he'll stay over, and all we'll do is sleep together. Is that ok, as long as we don't have sex?

    Hello anon!

    I believe there was a huge fiasco in the Catholic community over the idea of cohabitation/sleepovers sans sex/etc, so I will try to tread lightly. 

    What you have to remember when dealing with these sorts of issues is that not only do you have to avoid sin itself, but you also want to avoid the occasion of sin.

    If having a sleepover with your boyfriend tempts you to sin (and sin doesn’t necessarily mean having premarital sex… any type of lust is a sin), then you should do everything you can to remove that temptation (i.e. stop having sleepovers). 

    Grace be with you and your boyfriend!

    -Olivier

  • May 26, 2012 11:59 am

    On Celibacy

    In the debate on Gay Marriages, many people use the argument that celibacy leads to a life of depression and loneliness.

    However, the Catholic Church (in my opinion) is the only Church that can say with authority that celibate people can live happy—if not happier—lifestyles. 

    Why?

    Because our Priests and Religious take vows and promises of Celibacy and find it much more rewarding. I’ve spoken with many Priests and Seminarians who are against changing the rule on Celibate Priests. I also heard from a Priest that the hardest Promise isn’t of Celibacy…but of Obedience. 

    Here’s the thing: When we desire sex and romance, there is a much deeper desire that is rooted in there…it’s for love. We all desire to be loved. God is love. He is infinite Love. So those desires for sex and romance are satisfied through God, because in reality; only He can satisfy.

    "Out of the depths You cry ‘Come and be satisfied!’ Father You sing, over Your children!" -Matt Maher

    -Javi

  • April 26, 2012 3:41 pm
    Anonymous:  What's does the Catholic Church teach about dating? (Not casual dating) How do you know if you're ready?

    For this question, I had my friend Baby Tom answer it. He’s a pretty knowledgable guy about this stuff: 

    Ok so, this is how it’s gonna go down:

    Basically, there are 5 easy lessons for Catholic dating. Easy as in easy to understand. Definitely not easy to follow through with. The main thing to remember is even if you get lost or led astray by Satan, God can and will redeem you and your significant other. So do not worry if something bad happens, because Christ can always turn it into something good. Now for the steps: You are ready for dating in the Catholic perspective if:

    1) Solid friendship: do you have a solid friendship with this person? Do you hang out a lot and share many friends? Have you had some good times with his/her family? Do you share many common interests? Do you laugh more than you argue with the other? ~ friendship is first because without it, a relationship is nothing more than a business transaction. You become users of one another not looking for the good for each other, but seeking self-satisfaction and the heart cannot be kept in that kind of interaction and be safe.

    2) Built on Christ: do you share your faith with one another? Do you both go to confession either monthly or at least often enough to grow in holiness? Do you go to mass together and apart from one another? Do you adore Christ in the Sacrament privately? Do you and your possible significant other pray with other friends? ~ Listen, if Christ is not the foundation of the friendship above, it will fail→guaranteed. Maybe not today or tomorrow or in 50 years but eventually, it will falter because Christ is not the Rock it is built on. Pray often with your love interest and without them. If you don’t, your bond will be weaker than if you did.

    3) Discernment: have you offered up this possible relationship in prayer during Mass or adoration? Do you ask God to guide you? If you’re a man, do you ask Mary to let you see her daughter through Mary’s eyes? If you’re a woman, do you ask Christ to let you see his son through Christ’s eyes? Because these two are the only perfect figures in the universe and their relationship is eternal and perfect, they will show you the purity and preciousness of the other if you let them show you. You must discern. This kind of decision is one of the most important of your lifetime – it will help determine who you will be with for a great portion of your life so you need to ask the Holy Spirit to guide you through it.

    4) Peace: do you have peace in making a decision to date the other person? Now it is important to make a disclaimer here: I am not talking about absolute peace (aka no worries at all/not nervous at all). Just as a man should be nervous when proposing to his future bride, so also should the two be discerning a relationship. If there are no nerves in it, it is not something worth fighting for because there’s no sense of adventure. The kind of peace that both should have is the same peace that Mary and Christ had at their most iconic/troubling moments of life: Mary meeting the angel Gabriel and she was “troubled”, yet she submitted her life to God’s Will. Christ was suffering true agony in the Garden of Gethsemane yet he offered his life to the Father. They originally had no peace in these realms to offer their lives, yet they offered themselves to the Father’s Will and was graced with true peace. They probably were still “troubled” but they had the peace they needed to say, “Not my will but yours be done,” and “I am the servant of the Lord; let it be done to me according to your Word.” Asking yourself if you have peace is extremely important.

    5) Finally, have a willingness to leave each other if called to do so: you do not need one another, I repeat, you do not need one another. This is the opposite of what society tells us: “you need a guy/girl in order to be happy/successful.” But it is not true. Ask yourself are you really that miserable being single? I bet you can name way more good times than bad while being single. What makes you think you’ll be miserable being single a year from now or 2 or 10? You won’t be. You’d have friends and family always and as long as you are with Christ, you already have everything. A desire to have the other is greater than a need for the other. Think about it: Christ doesn’t need us yet He wants us. Doesn’t that love mean more than if He needed us? Yes it does. Because He died willingly and it was not necessary, it means everything. Also, if you are both called into a relationship and then called out of it you MUST follow that call. If you truly want to be happy, you must be willing to pick up your cross and follow Him, no matter what.

    But, do not worry. The most common phrase in the Bible is “Do not worry/do not be afraid.” Christ has you in His hands and if you just keep looking up at Him, He will guide you to the eyes of your future spouse.

    -Baby Tom

    I hope that answered your question, God Bless!

    -Javi 

  • April 23, 2012 2:52 pm
    daydreamenthusiast:  hello there! blessings all round! okay now I have a uqestion regarding the execution of chastity. I have a litte question that is basically a small detail but one that has been nagging me. When in a relationship are you allowed (not that there are rules, but is it recomended) to lie next to them? By which means I mean lie on a couch with eachother and embrace. Or lie next to them on a bed and just rest peacefully. No funny business but just chilling and enjoying just being next to someone :)

    Hello daydreamenthusiast,

    The execution of chastity is a complex and vigilant process, something that demands tremendous self-control and a firm foundation in prayer.

    Your question raises an issue that many young adults grapple with while living chaste and genuine relationships.  What is or isn’t ok?  With regard to “cuddling” or “snuggling”, presuming that’s along the lines of what you mean, it is generally advisable to err on the side of caution.

    While you desire to enjoy the company of your significant other, and there is no inherent sin in doing so, the situation may, depending on the circumstance, readily invite temptation.  What I mean is that what’s purely innocent in nature may quickly twist unexpectedly, specifically when you aren’t in public.

    To reiterate the advice of my own mother, if you’re going to lie with your boyfriend/girlfriend, find a nice public setting, like central park for instance (i’m from new york), where the atmosphere naturally lends itself to dissuading any funny business. 

    There’s nothing more romantic than sharing a picnic on the lawn, or stargazing, but in the interests of respecting each other and preserving that peaceful affection, I humbly recommend you reserve it for places where you maintain your privacy but have a watchful eye present just in case. 

    Thanks for asking, and may the peace of Christ be with you and your family

    -J

  • April 10, 2012 8:42 am
    Anonymous:  How about people born intersex? What does the catholic church have to say with regards to those who are not clearly male or clearly female?

    The Church has been rather silent on the issue of Intersexed persons (as well as transsexuals.) However, we know that they are called to chastity like all other individuals. This forum provides excellent talking points:

    http://forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=229202

    -Niko

  • March 5, 2012 10:39 pm
    Anonymous:  I have often heard Catholic opposition to birth control defended with the analogy of eating, that it is wrong to try to partake only in the pleasure without the original purpose of the act, reproduction or sustenance respectively. Would this logic also not make Diet Coke a sin because it gives the pleasure of consumption without the caloric original purpose?

    Well, I don’t think the metaphor’s meant to be taken that far.  But okay, we can play along.  Diet coke isn’t the only thing that gives the pleasure of consumption without caloric intake.  Celery does too!  (Okay, it gives you calories but you use more calories to eat it than the calories that it gives you.  Close enough.)  Anyways, both diet coke and celery are good, but only as sides to the ‘main course’ if you will.  Having diet coke and celery along with a big juicy steak is great!  Just like nonreproductive ‘foreplay’ is allowed as long as it leads to intercourse.  A diet of just diet coke and celery would make your body waste away, just like a sexual relationship that’s not open to the sexual act at all would make your soul waste away.

    Again, I think this is going a little too deep into the metaphor, but does that make sense at all?

    -Niko